5 Reasons Why You're Not Getting What You Want (And Other People Do)

Ever wondered why there are people out there that seem to always get what they want? Meanwhile, you're sitting on the sidelines in a job you hate, a relationship that is more than toxic or maybe you just feel that life is just a little too repetitive or even boring.

Maybe you look at other people and wish that you had the guts to do what they do. Maybe you experience thoughts such as;

"I am not confident like he/she is."

"I don't have the discipline to do that."

"I could never do that, seems like too much effort."

"I wish I had his/her body."

"People wouldn't listen to what I have to say."

"I wish I had more friends."

The fact of the matter is, we are all on the same level. If you are living in a country where war does not exist and you have the luxury of a bed to sleep in, there is no reason why you cannot achieve what your heart desires.

Whether it is a healthy, loving relationship, that corporate gig you've secretly wanted, a fit body you can be proud of or maybe you have a business idea but it has always remained just that, an idea. Then not too long after someone else launches that idea and you think to yourself, " I thought of that first!"

The main difference from you and the people who get what they want is that they take ACTION. They didn't sit there and just ponder on an idea. They did something about it. They implemented their business idea, they started applying for their dream role, they started gaining the skills needed for what they wanted to do, they networked with the right people, they pushed past their fear and told their crush exactly how they felt. These people that get what they want all took action. Without action, your goal remains a dream.

Here is a list of 5 reasons as to why you may not be getting what you want and other people do.

YOU ARE FOCUSED ON WHAT YOU HAVE TO LOSE RATHER THAN WHAT YOU HAVE TO GAIN - What we focus on grows and if we focus on the negatives, we heighten our sense of fear causing us not to go after what we want. Successful people focus on what they have to gain. They also know that in order to achieve anything, they must also make sacrifices and commit to the end goal.                                                                                                                                                                                                                           

Nothing great ever comes easy, there will be setbacks and there will be mistakes but in the end, that feeling of accomplishment outweighs the struggles of the journey. Focus on the possibility of things going right rather than the possibilities of what could go wrong. 

 YOU DOUBT YOURSELF - When we doubt ourselves, it affects our tone, energy, vibe, action or lack thereof. If we believe we aren't good enough, smart enough or strong enough, then we are right. People that get what they want feel the fear (heck, we all have fears!) and continue on doing it anyway. They push past the voices of doubt, they push themselves outside of their comfort zone and they take that leap of faith believing that they can get whatever they want regardless of the voices in their heads telling them otherwise.

YOU SECRETLY FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T DESERVE IT - When we feel undeserving, we prevent ourselves from receiving the abundance available to us from the universe. We miss opportunities, we misinterpret situations and advances that could've helped us.                                                                                                                                                                                 

We reject rather than accept the help of others and we put ourselves in a place of not receiving. Everyone has different dreams and desires. There is enough abundance for all of us. Have you ever noticed that the people that get what they want act like they already have it? That is the "Law of Attraction" working in their favour. 

YOU CARE TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK - The funny thing is when people tell you that your dreams are too big, it is usually because they feel like they could not accomplish that. If we worry about the thoughts of others, or fear of being judged, that can only consume us. It doesn't serve us at all.                                                                                                                                                                                                                     

Every successful person on this planet has been told their dreams were too big. They have been told by others that they weren't good enough, their idea was crazy or that they would never make it. Think Oprah, she experienced rejection after rejection and was told someone like her would never make it. Think Arnold Schwarzenegger, he too was told he would never make it in Hollywood. What about Albert Einstein? How many people thought he was crazy when in fact he was a genius?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              

People that achieve their goals ignore the voices of others and put themselves out there, even though they risk failing. At the end of the day, wouldn't you rather give it your all and try to succeed than to do nothing and always be left wondering?  

YOU'RE LAZY - Sorry to say it but could it be true? Maybe you just think "Ugh, that seems like way too much effort." People that get what they want go after what they want. You don't get fit by wishing you were fit. Fit people train, practice self discipline and they commit to a plan. Those that run successful businesses didn't just happen to get there because of luck. They worked hard, years before anyone saw their success, they stayed up late, woke up early and were consistent in building their empire.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     

Motivation isn't something we are gifted with. Motivation is created. When there is nothing motivating or inspiring you, get out there and motivate yourself. You never know, you may even inspire and surprise yourself with what you are actually capable of.                                                                                                                                                                                           

Have you ever thought that doing nothing and wishing you were something better, someone else, someone more successful and just sitting there in self pity takes just as much effort as chasing after what it is you want. It's draining when you experience thoughts of anxiety, stress and worry. Wouldn't that energy be better spent building your future and creating a life you enjoy?


I believe going after what you want shows that you love and respect yourself enough to give yourself happiness. Next time you find yourself wondering why other people seem to have it all, please take a moment to actually look behind the scenes. The people that get what they want, worked for what they wanted. They took action. You too can also be that person that gets what they want, the question is, how much do you want it?