You know those people that always seem to be smiling? They walk into any room and every one is drawn to them. They’re like a magnet. Their energy radiates and their vibes are contagious. Have you ever looked at these people secretly wishing you were like them? Have you ever wondered how on earth they could be so happy? I know I have.
There have been plenty of times I have looked at another wishing I was as happy as they were. I wish I glowed like they did and I wished I could walk into a room and light it up. Funny thing is, that was a long time ago. Now that I have insight on the other side of the fence, I can share 2 things happy people do differently so that you can do it too. So grab yourself a drink and get comfortable while I spill some beans!
JUDGE YOURSELF INSTEAD OF OTHERS
Now I’m not saying to start picking on yourself and start criticizing. What I mean is to stop judging other people when you know damn right you aren’t perfect either. Have you ever caught yourself saying “Did you see what so and so was wearing?” or “Did you know so and so did this? Can you believe that?” or even “So and so is so annoying, they’re always saying/doing this!” Sound familiar?
Now take a moment and look at things from another perspective. Imagine if you were someone else talking about you. What would you say? I’m sure if you took a really, long, hard look, there will be plenty to find that others could say that is also annoying about you. Would it feel good knowing other people are saying that about you? If it doesn’t, why judge and say things about others when you could be spending that energy working on bettering yourself instead?
WHAT WE FOCUS ON GROWS
I know, most of us have heard of the terms “Look at the bright side,” or “Stay positive”, the list could go on but I’m sure you get my drift. The thing with happy people is that they are more than well aware that there are negatives in any given situation, they just choose not to put too much focus on it. I’m not saying that you should be completely oblivious to any negatives, let’s be realistic here.
What I am saying is that happy people acknowledge the negatives, they know they are there and then they seek for solutions. If they cannot change the situation, they simply change their attitude. How do they change their attitude? They change their perspective.
As Wayne Dyer once quoted, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” Look for positives in any given situation, if you can’t find any, try asking yourself, “What is this trying to teach me?” Maybe the situation is teaching you to have patience, maybe the situation is teaching you to stand up for yourself or maybe the situation is teaching you to let go so you can walk toward a better path for yourself.
The universe is always guiding us, we just have to learn to really listen.