She's confident. When she walks into a room, you feel her presence. Her aura is strong and people are drawn to her. She is the girl that is hard to pin down. The one that is always marching to the beat of her own drum.
Life seems easy for her. She is surrounded by gorgeous friends and always seems to be smiling. It seems that she does what she wants, when she wants, how she wants and you can't help but admire her for that. Yup, she is the fiercely independent female and boy can she be stubborn.
From the outside, it seems as if she has it all. Like seriously, how does she balance everything she does? Let alone chase her goals and maintain the social life she has? How does she hardly bat an eye lid when something bad happens? Sometimes she seems a little thrown but she always comes back stronger than before. How is she so strong? How does she do it?
SHE NEVER USED TO BE LIKE THIS
If you knew her years ago. If you knew just where she came from. You really wouldn't be able to believe that she was the same girl. The fiercely independent girl was never so independent. She used to depend on people. She used to rely on people. She wasn't always so confident. Heck she was always bouncing in and out of relationships. You never ever saw her without a boyfriend. Did this girl even know how to be alone?
I'm going to tell you something about the fiercely independent female. She may not want you to know this about her and please don't throw it in her face or use it against her, but I am going to be brutally honest and tell you something she hides so well.
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
The fiercely independent female has been shattered and kicked down on several occasions. If she opened up to you and told you about her past, it may shock you. She's been hurt, she's been tormented, she's probably experienced some things that would leave your jaw on the ground.
She doesn't need anyone in her life not because she doesn't want to, it's because she felt she was made to. She has been let down by a lot of people close to her. Her family may have abandoned her, friends may have deceived her, past lovers may have hurt her in ways a lover shouldn't. Maybe even strangers in her life had hurt her in some way. Unless she tells you, you will never really know.
The reason she doesn't need anyone is because she was left in a position where she felt the only person she could rely on was herself. At least she knew that she wouldn't purposely hurt herself. She knew she was dependable. The fiercely independent female has been kicked to the ground so many times, she woke up one day and realised enough is enough.
DON'T LET HER FOOL YOU
Now don't get me wrong. She is perfectly fine on her own. She knows how to look after herself. She has been doing it all of her life. It's all she knows. Letting someone in and being vulnerable is something that is completely foreign to her. She doesn't know where to start and to be honest, it scares her to death.
Don't let her tough girl image fool you though. If you took the time to really get to know her and her thoughts, you would come to learn that she is just as lost as the rest of us. She would give anything to be able to trust in someone and depend on someone in times of need. She may push love away but it is this girl that needs it the most.
She has gone her whole life being let down by the people closest to her that she keeps everyone at arms length. If you ripped into her soul, you would find a girl that was full of love. You would find she has one of the biggest hearts you have ever seen in anyone. If she came to learn to trust you, you would find that she is the most generous, loyal and loving person you could ask for.
You know why? Because she knows what it is like to have nothing. She knows the meaning and feeling of pain and she would never wish that upon anyone else. If she opens her heart to you, I promise that you will find an incredible human being with so much love to give. The fiercely independent female isn't so fiercely independent. Deep down, she was waiting for someone like you to help her realise that it is okay to open up to someone. She needed someone like you to show her that not everyone was out to get her.
Don't throw this in her face and don't use this against her. Be patient and let her come around in her own time. How do I know this? Well, that is for me to know.